State of Mind with Debra Sloss
Managing Emotions Mindfully

Episode #9: In this STATE OF MIND episode, Debra Sloss, LMFT is joined by Buddhist nun and teacher Venerable Tenzin Chogkyi and mindfulness student Holly Costa to discuss how simple mindfulness practices can help people learn to manage their emotions more effectively, improve relationships, and increase ease in their lives even during hard times.  Venerable Tenzin talks about the value of being aware (or mindful) of our emotions and shares specific skills that can be used to help manage them. She shares touching stories of teaching these concepts to men in prison and gives examples of how these skills can be used. Holly, a new mindfulness student, insightfully describes how employing these skills has already enriched her life in numerous ways. She talks about living with family members who have mental illness and addiction challenges, and describes how these practices are improving her relationships at home, at work, and with herself.

Broadcast: 8/4/19

Special thanks to my co-producer Lauren Fein for her organizational & technical expertise along with her general wizardry to help bring this show to you. Also, thanks to acoustic guitarist Adrian Legg for composing, performing, and donating our theme music.

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Courses & Workshops:

Find Venerable Tenzin Chogkyi’s teaching offerings here:

Cultivating Emotional Balance is also available as an online course from The Wisdom Academy with teachers: B. Alan Wallace and Eve Ekman.

Suggested Readings for Managing Emotions Mindfully course:

Ekman, Paul. Emotions Revealed: Recognizing Faces and Feelings to Improve Communication and Emotional Life, 2003, 2007. Key text on Paul Ekman’s research and training guidance for increasing emotional awareness, resonance, and regulation.

Ekman, Paul with H. H. the Dalai Lama.Emotional Awareness: Overcoming the Obstacles to Psychological Balance, 2009. Dialogue with the Dalai Lama on skills needed to develop emotional well-being.

Goleman, D. Destructive Emotions: How Can We Overcome Them?  A scientific dialogue with the Dalai Lama, 2003

Websites / Videos:

Cultivating Emotional Balance website:

The Atlas of Emotions:

Leah Cohen Tai Chi – 5 Minutes a Day:

Al-Anon & Alateen for Santa Cruz and San Benito Counties – District 23 website:


Disney-Pixar Film: Inside Out (2015)


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