Episode #51: People are utilizing therapy now more than ever. Men are taking advantage of this resource in unprecedented numbers. In this episode, we explore what therapy is like for men: the barriers, the benefits, and the types available. Guest Host Lisa Herendeen is joined by guests Joey Fino and Mark Vanderhoof, who share their personal experiences of therapy. Outdoorsman Joey describes himself as an unlikely therapy client until a debilitating illness led him to seek and greatly benefit from the help. Mark shares how couples therapy saved his marriage and led him to a more meaningful life. Also joining us is psychotherapist Tim Hartnett, who describes the ways that gender roles shape men’s development and can limit their relationships with others. Tim also shares how therapeutic work, in and out of the therapy room, can help men live fuller, happier lives with greater connection to those they love and care about. Join us for this valuable and insightful discussion about men in therapy.
Special thanks to Jeanne Baldzikowski for audio production, Lisa Herendeen for advance research and Leslie Nielsen and Patrice Vecchione for “In Your Voice” Coordination. And thanks to acoustic guitarist Adrian Legg for composing, performing, and donating the use of our theme music.
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*Shine a Light Counseling Center – Offering quality, affordable counseling at offices in Santa Cruz, Watsonville and Monterey. The center provides individual, family, couple and group counseling, including men’s groups.
*Family Service Agency (FSA) of the Central Coast is a dedicated underwriter of State of Mind. FSA provides resources, support, and counseling services to adults and children. FSA believes in the power and potential of people of all ages and backgrounds to discover their own creative solutions and welcomes people of diverse cultures, genders, sexual orientations, ages, faiths, socio–economic backgrounds. FSA Counseling Offices offer Medi–Cal, Medicare, and low–cost, sliding scale services in both downtown Santa Cruz and Soquel.
Phone: 831–423–9444 x200 and in Soquel 831–346–6767 x200.
*Monterey Bay Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families – Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA), is as an international 12 Step Recovery Program for individuals who grew up in alcoholic or dysfunctional homes. State of Mind has a show specifically on this resource (listen here).
Adult Children of Alcoholics World Service Organization – Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA), is as an international 12 Step Recovery Programfor individuals who grew up in alcoholic or dysfunctional homes. ACA is based on the belief that the disease of alcoholism and family dysfunction infected us as children and continues to affect us as adults.
The Laundry List – 14 Traits of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic
Al-Anon – Al-Anon Family Groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience, strength, and hope in order to solve their common problems. Al-Anon sees alcoholism as a family illness and that changed attitudes can aid recovery. Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization, or institution; does not engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any cause. There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self-supporting through its own voluntary contributions. Al-Anon has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. Al-Anon does this by practicing the Twelve Steps, by welcoming and giving comfort to families of alcoholics, and by giving understanding and encouragement to the alcoholic.
*Al-Anon and Alateen Meetings for Santa Cruz and San Benito Counties
*NorCal CoDA – Co-Dependents Anonymous for Northern California. Providing information about the program, working the steps and where and how to attend online meetings.
*MENtors – An organization dedicated to providing a wide range of groups, training, consultations and technical support regarding working with boys, young men, men and fathers in the community. Their programs offer support, guidance, and coaching to help dads, boys, and men develop and nurture healthy social-emotional growth for themselves, families, and communities.
California Institute of Integral Studies / Counseling and Acupuncture Clinics (CIIS) – Provides psychotherapy and acupuncture in San Francisco . This was where Joey first started therapy and thought it was very affordable. Recommended for those who are uninsured for therapy.
The Benefits of Breathing Exercises | Wim Hof Method – This has really helped Joey calm his mind down and strengthened him mentally as well as physically.
Podcast on The Effect of Sauna on Depression and Mood | Rhonda Patrick | Posted on August 12th 2020 on Found My Fitness website.
I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real (1988) – This book is a groundbreaking and hopeful guide to understanding and destigmatizing male depression, essential not only for men who may be suffering but for the people who love them.
Altogether You: Experiencing personal and spiritual transformation with Internal Family Systems therapy by Jenna Riemersma (2020) – In this book, therapist and speaker Jenna Riemersma applies the insights of Internal Family Systems (IFS) for anyone who feels stuck in unwanted feelings and behaviors, with a special focus on personal transformation for readers of the Christian faith.
A Practicum Immanuel by Patricia A. Velotta (2011) – This book simplifies the process of Immanuel prayer by Dr Karl Lehmann and teaches readers how to connect to Jesus and be led through the process of healing traumatic memories.
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