State of Mind with Debra Sloss
Gender-Based Violence Prevention for Teens and Young Adults (remix)

Episode #62: Gender-based violence is an umbrella term that includes the more familiar descriptors of domestic violence, intimate partner violence, sexual violence, and dating violence. These problems are rampant in our country with current statistics showing that every 68 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted. Gender-based violence affects one in every three American girls and nearly a third of all college students around the world. In this episode, we discuss who is most impacted and how both youth and adults can seek help and support.

For survivors of gender-based violence, the mental health impacts are often substantial and can include PTSD, depression, anxiety, substance misuse, self-harm, suicidal behavior, and sleep disturbances. Additionally, survivors often face stigma and rejection from community and family. Join us to learn more about gender-based violence as we talk with two educator-advocates, Nic Laflin and Ana Velazquez as well as a survivor and hotline volunteer, Natt. We’ll discuss tips for prevention and how and where to seek support. We suggest that you listen to this show along with a teen or young adult in your life with the hope that it will help them be more aware and prepared to stop such violence.

Broadcasts: 1/7/24 & 1/8/24

Special thanks to Jeanne Baldzikowski for audio production and to Jennifer Young for research and outreach. And finally, thanks to acoustic guitarist Adrian Legg for composing, performing, and donating the use of our theme music.

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* Indicates a Monterey Bay Area Resource

General Support
*Live Oak Community Resource Center – Offers parenting support, counseling for individuals and families, and homework help for youth in the Live Oak/Soquel area.

*Walnut Avenue Family & Women’s Center (WAFWC) in 2015 updated their name to highlight their dedication to serving entire families. All support services are No-Cost, Confidential, Gender-Inclusive, Intersectional, LGBTQ+ affirming, and in English, Spanish, or both (other accommodations are also available). 831-426-3062

      Services for Children & Youth at WAFWC

    • Warriors Youth Group (Ages 12-18)  safe space to build self-esteem, healthy relationships, and problem-solving skills through fun workshops, games, and discussion; drop-in meets weekly.
    • One-on-One Mentoring Teens (Ages 12-19) safe, fun support to build resiliency in young people.
    • Preventative Education for pre-teens, teens, & young adults interested in learning about healthy relationships. No need for parental consent to participate.
    • Healthy Relationships & Life Skills Workshop All ages. All genders. Age appropriate. Youth prevention specialists come with info, resources, and activities on fostering healthy relationships and essential life skills through workshops, presentations, tabling, speaking, consultation; hour or less;
    • A Window Between Worlds Trauma-informed art workshops. All ages. All genders. Safe environment to share their stories, build resilience, identify emotions, self-regulate, gain a stronger sense of self-worth.
    • Dating Matters Ages 11-17 (middle & high school). All genders. CDC: “Research shows that supporting healthy emotional development can prevent a variety of negative outcomes, including teen dating violence …and healthy relationship attitudes and behaviors start developing early.”
    • Dating Matters for Educators and Parents how to talk about safety and respect you deserve in all relationships (friends, teachers, employers, dates, etc.).
    • The Art of Violence Prevention presented evidence-based info on healthy/unhealthy relationships to over 150 students from local high schools. Student art show

      *Community Education at WAFWC:

    • Presentations: practical knowledge and skill implementation tailored to meet needs of organization. Examples: general DV information, DV in the workplace, healthy relationships for teens, and how to be an ally to survivors.
    • Tabling: Youth fairs, Pride week, health fairs.
    • Speakers and Panels: Topic examples: Domestic violence, healthy families and child development, reproductive rights, prison abolition, human rights, anti-racism, healthcare, nonprofit coalitions, avenues of social justice.
    • Consultations: Advocates can offer customized advice, support, information, and resources.
    • Customized Workshops for Supplemental Classroom/After-School Learning. All ages and genders. Research-supported presentations/workshops can dovetail with current learning plan in Sociology, History, Social Studies, English, Literature, Health, and P.E.

      *Services for Survivors of Domestic Violence at WAFWC:

    • Domestic Violence Crisis Hotline: 1 (866) 2MY ALLY or 1 (866) 269-2559
    • Walnut Avenue Family and Women’s Center‘s 24/7 hotline offers crisis intervention, emotional support, resources, referrals, and safety-planning for survivors and their allies
    • Peer Advocacy: One-on-One with trained Domestic Violence Advocates
    • Legal Advocacy
    • Temporary Accommodations: Emergency, Short-Term, Off-stie
    • Housing & Employment Support: Case management for social services, employment, work and credit histories
    • Survivor Support groups: drop-in, childcare for attendees
    • Kids Group (Ages 0-11) trained volunteers provide a safe place for kids of participants
    • Internships for academic credit or volunteering and Domestic Violence Advocacy Certification
    • Early Education Center: Infant Center and Early Education Center (preschoolers); for low-income families working or enrolled in training programs, high school, or college; children through CPS; and limited spaces for full-fee-paying community members
    • African American Community Health Project: education, support, advocacy, and leadership
    • Space for Change: alternative justice program in collaboration with the Conflict Resolution Center (CRC); offers opportunities for people who have caused domestic violence or who have experienced it to work on building safer, healthier relationships

* Perinatal Mental Health Coalition – a resource for new parents, mothers, and birthing parents in Santa Cruz who are experiencing mental health issues such as post-partum depression and anxiety. Healthy children begin with healthy adults!

*Encompass TAY (Transition Age Youth) program: serves current and former foster youth and homeless youth in Santa Cruz County.

*The Diversity Center Transgender and Non-Binary Support Group – a peer support group for genderqueer individuals that focuses on lifting the transgender and non-binary community and discussing shared experiences.
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Meeting ID: 857 624 696
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Counseling Support
* Family Service Agency (FSA) of the Central Coast is a dedicated underwriter of State of Mind. FSA provides resources, support, and counseling servicesto adults and children.  FSA believes in the power and potential of people of all ages and backgrounds to discover their own creative solutions and welcomes people of diverse cultures, genders, sexual orientations, ages, faiths, socio-economic backgrounds.  FSA Counseling Offices offer Medi-Cal, Medicare, and low-cost, sliding scale services in both downtown Santa Cruz 831-423-9444 x200 and in Soquel 831-346-6767 x200.

Crisis Support
California Youth Crisis Line Free confidential support line available via phone, chat, and text for California youth ages 12-24 and for adults supporting youth. Crisis line is able to provide emotional support and resources for youth/youth allies. Available 24/7.

Teen Line Crisis Hotline – Free confidential support available to youth from trained peer counselors from 6 – 8 PM Pacific time. Accessed via phone, text, or email.

Yoga with Adrienne on YouTube – a free YouTube channel with calming videos tutorials for yoga. An easy and free way to do yoga in your own home. Our guest Natt says, “Yoga really helped him own his body again.”

More Information
Video of Dr. Bruce Perry’s “Three R’s” – how to help regulate a child having a meltdown. Especially helpful for children who have experienced trauma, but useful for all parents and adults to have in their back pocket. Here is a pdf explaining Dr. Perry’s regulation ideas.

Love Is Respect –  a resource for teenagers and young adults to explore the spectrum of healthy and unhealthy relationships (and answers questions like “should we break up?” “Is this abuse?” and “how do I help my friend?”)

Increased Domestic Violence and Femicide in Santa Cruz County:  A Pandemic within a Pandemic  , Blog post by Delphine Burns, Monarch Services,  Jul 22, 2021.

RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) – the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization. RAINN created and operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline in partnership with more than 1,000 local sexual assault service providers across the country and operates the DoD Safe Helpline for the Department of Defense. RAINN also carries out programs to prevent sexual violence, help survivors, and ensure that perpetrators are brought to justice.

National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. 24/7.
1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or Live Chat at

YWCA– Gender Based Violence Facts published September, 2017

* Indicates a Monterey Bay Area Resource